MOTHER'S DAY

       Today is Mother's day, and ironically I was watching a movie highlighting the importance of a mother (trust me, it wasn't planned). There was a dialogue that said, "mothers are crazy, crazy caring, crazy loving, crazy passionate about you. They spend their life grooming you, they teach you, the good and the bad, they work for you, care for you, they heed to your needs. And all they ask in return is your love." I don't know why, but I felt it was important for me to write this. 

          I've seen a lot of mothers, my aunts, grandmoms, my mom, my cousins, all of them are moms. I have noticed that there are a lot of different types of moms, apart from the similarities that I mentioned earlier, I have seen that they each have a unique way of raising their kids. Not everyone expresses their love in the same way, and this is where we kids go wrong. We think that they aren't like our friends' mothers. We tend to misunderstand and become narrow-minded. 

        As I grew, I understood how much my parents did for me. I realized that they deserved a lot more respect and love than I could ever give them. This doesn't stop me from hurting them, especially my mom, but I don't do it on purpose, I hope she understands. Nowadays, I see my mom hurt on something that my brother does, and I can't help but wonder if I hurt her in the same way. 

       Nowadays, that I'm home for longer times, scratch that - all the time, I observed something, something that made me understand how pure my mother's love is. I witnessed how much my mother distanced herself from her family to take care of us. Almost all of the mothers I know do that after marriage I'm guessing. It must take so much courage to adapt yourself to a new family and distance yourself from another with whom you have so many memories. I doubt if anyone else in this world has so much courage in them to do so. I admire these women so much for that. 

       I, being who I am, love toddlers and whenever I see one, I immediately get to pampering them and a lot of babies do like playing with me (not to boast XD). And whenever someone else comes into the view and the baby is attracted towards them, I do feel a pang of jealousy fill me. And I keep wondering how a mother must feel when, as soon as daddy returns home, the baby rushes towards them. Like in 'Yes Day', the mother is mostly seen as the bad guy, despite nine months of pain, and a lot more years of dedication only towards the baby. I, personally can't choose between my mom and my dad but I do know that I take my mother's presence for granted. But even after the 'bad guy' reputation, she has a lot more. I've witnessed in my personal life how a mother is stereotyped to have to be with the baby when they're born. While the father might go on trips and parties, unfortunately, mothers are cliched to have to tend to the baby. This is a fact and I've seen this happen. How they stop working, they stop going out and are dedicated to the baby full and whole. I cannot even imagine being able to do that and although I'm someone who believes in equality and equity as one, can say that a mother's dedication is unparalleled. Her love has no bounds, and her passion is a zest. 

                               HATS OFF TO THE MOTHERS OUT THERE

And this one's for my ma, I'm sorry for everything I've done to make you sad or angry. I never meant to hurt you and I never will. I've never told anyone this but you are a role model ma. Your talent and commitment are what I've always wanted. You never ever gave up and I follow you on that. Every time I see you sad I can't help but scold myself for being the cause for it. I may not have been the best daughter out there, but you have been the best ma for sure. I never had the courage to tell you this but thank you. Thank you for never giving up on us, Thank you for being there for us,  Thank you for everything ma. We love you <3  and you too nanna <3  

- Jiya Chandrapu